With Christmas just around the corner, I thought I would write a quick blog on what is important at Christmas. I've previously written about how old relational patterns get played out when the family get to together (How to survive Christmas), but let's examine what's important at Christmas.
No matter how many people I speak to, the general theme is: spending time with loved ones. Of course there is the spiritual and religious aspects to Christmas that are very important, but in general, we all go to enormous lengths to spend time with our families and to make time to see friends. It's one of the few times that the majority of people are on holiday at the same time, which also helps to make plans to see each other.
If we keep this in mind, Christmas can be a lot less stressful, and more about enjoying the moment and what is important. If seeing your family is important to you, then framing your thoughts about looking forward to seeing your family on Christmas. You don't have to have the perfect present or meal. Being together and being genuine is more important.
From all of us at Grove Psychology, we wish you a safe and merry Christmas.